When you are thinking about what other people are doing, did, or are about to do, take yourself out of it.

For example, you might think “My friends went to the park and didn’t invite me.”

Remove that last bit.

“My friends went to the park.”

That’s all you really know anyway, isn’t it?

Likewise, when you are thinking about what you are doing, did, or are about to do, take other people out of it.

For example, you might think “I am not going to be able to complete this project because Gary isn’t pulling his weight.”

Take out that last part.

“I am not going to be able to complete this project.”

Is that your decision, truly?

The world doesn’t revolve around us and we have more agency than we think.