• Screen-free Sunday (and car-free too)

    Screen-free Sunday (and car-free too)

    You can already imagine the groans coming from my kids. This is me achieving peak Dad. I started setting our network at home to turn all the kids devices (and much of our own) off on Sunday. Screen time kicks in as well on the phones, so there is no circumventing it. Things are locked down.

    With the exception of music still being able to be played (and subsequently clicked on in Sonos on my phone), we have been off screens the past two Sundays.

    No email. No computers. No TV. The whole day.

    It sounds corny and like something that would have been fashionable 10+ years ago, but I don’t care. It’s been 100% worth it.

    Yes, there has been severe dread emanating from every one of my teenage daughter’s pores. My son made it clear that I’ve ruined Sundays.

    But there have also been many moments that have happened in the past couple of weeks that haven’t happened in months or even longer.

    All four of us were together in our bedroom in the afternoon, chatting together about who knows what…ACTUALLY TALKING AND LAUGHING without any agenda, no whining or pouting either. That might have been the best thing, but there was more!

    We all did little things around the house together. We hung some pictures up that have been sitting in the closet for two years. We played soccer in the park. I rode my bike to the grocery store instead of driving. We PAINTED LIKE ACTUAL PAINTINGS (see photo above).

    It felt so nice to just be free of a (massive) set of distractions and temptations. It felt essential.

    If this is me ruining Sunday, I’m happy to oblige.

  • More Jalapeños on the way

    Our tomatoes failed, but our jalapeño is resilient. It’s a little stressed, as you can see from the slightly yellow leaves, but there are a lot more peppers on the way. I’m going to add some used coffee grounds around the base to help add some nitrogen, because that’s partly what PictureThis/AI is advising and also because I like the idea of adding used coffee grounds to my garden no matter what.

  • First week of the new soccer season and the temp hovering around one million degrees. The boys don’t seem to notice. Soccer > sun.

  • SML, Khun Narin, Nicholas Payton, and more of my favorite albums from July 2026

    SML, Khun Narin, Nicholas Payton, and more of my favorite albums from July 2026

    July has been HOT here in NC. Basically everywhere I guess is boiling. Feels like it’s hotter than usual but we probably say that every year. Anyway, lots of good music this month. Here are my faves.

    SML – Spontaneous Music Live

    This is just incredible. The album is only 2 tracks, but both are >20 minutes. The best work music.

    Khun Narin – III

    Psychedelic instrumental rock from a loosely knit collective of musicians in Thailand. So good.

    Nicholas Payton & Butcher Brown – A Supreme Blue

    Butcher Brown is one of my faves, and this revisiting/ode to Miles and Coltrane is brilliant.

    Charley Crockett – Clovis

    Charley Crockett releases a lot of albums, and not all of them grab me, but this one did for sure.

    Lisathe – Watch Out For The Horse Behind You

    Improvisational mix of jazz and rock? Yes! I’ve been playing this many a morning this month. So good.


    Other albums that I’ve been jamming to:


    Remember to support the artists you love, and if you want to peruse some of the previous new music posts from this year, do it!

    🗒 Featured image: Khun Narin


  • Code for the People

    I remember using WordPress when it first came out in college and loving it. My first blog back then (check out the original designs) has evolved to this blog today, and I never gave much thought to the open-source nature of the software running it. Even when I joined Automattic nearly seven years ago, I joined because I loved helping people publish creative things online. The fact that I was helping do that on open-source software was interesting in that it was the opposite end of the spectrum from my previous employer, Microsoft, but it wasn’t the primary reason I was there.

    Over time, though, it’s become clear that open-source is cool and really, REALLY important.

    Automattic recently released a film about open-source software, what the internet is for, and who owns it. You should check it out.

    Be an owner, not just a tenant!

  • I signed up for AAA and it’s a bit creaky but I guess I am too

    I signed up for AAA and it’s a bit creaky but I guess I am too

    I remember driving back from eastern Washington on a blazing hot day and getting a blown out tire in the middle of nowhere with my wife, Kav, and our then-infant daughter in the backseat. Aside from almost swerving into a semi truck when it happened, and the temperature being 90+, it was mostly stress-free. We had AAA roadside assistance back then, and were able to get roadside assistance to take care of the flat, which was a big help.

    When we moved to Scotland, we let our AAA membership expire, and since it seems like roadside assistance is offered as a bonus with lots of things these days (car insurance, credit cards, auto manufacturer warranties, etc.), I didn’t think I’d consider enrolling again.

    Well, I just signed up. Seems like a random thing to do in this day and age, but I don’t have roadside assistance through my car manufacturer (we have used cars that are both over five years old). I do have assistance through my car insurance, but it doesn’t extend to other cars (like rentals) nor does it extend to other people’s cars I’m riding in. AAA does that. They also have really cheap re-enrollment rates that I’m hoping I can extend to infinity by threatening to cancel each year. This, coupled with the fact that I REALLY don’t want to have to change a flat by myself on the road in 100+ degree heat, like, ever, makes it seem like a good move.

    The part of all of this that surprised me, though, is that the sign-up process was, to put it mildly, very clunky. I have a membership number and paid, but I still can’t create an online account yet, and it sounds like I won’t be able to until 24-72 hours have passed. In this day and age, that seems a highly unusual, astronomical amount of time.

    This got me wondering why…

    So naturally I asked my friends AI and Wikipedia and learned something new:

    AAA was founded in 1902 — so it’s over 120 years old. For context, that’s:

    • Before the Model T (1908)
    • Before most paved roads existed in the US
    • Before traffic signals, driver’s licenses in most states, or even standardized road signs

    It actually started as a federation of nine existing motor clubs that banded together to advocate for better roads and drivers’ rights at a time when cars were still a novelty and cities were often hostile to them. Some fun historical tidbits:

    • AAA lobbied for the creation of the US numbered highway system (Route 66, etc.)
    • They published some of the first road maps and travel guides in America — the famous AAA TripTiks date back to the 1930s
    • They pushed for driver’s education in schools starting in the 1930s
    • They’ve been rating hotels with their Diamond ratings since 1937

    So when the website feels a little creaky and your membership takes 72 hours to show up online, just remember you’ve joined an organization that predates the invention of the traffic light. 😄 The federation structure you noticed — all those regional clubs — is a direct holdover from those original nine clubs in 1902. They never fully centralized.

    Crazy. They’ve had some not-so-great history too (they refused to allow African Americans to join back in the day, and have fought against mass transit adoption in some cases).

    Despite all this, I’m a member of AAA again. This is probably the most stereotypical Dad thing I’ve done in recent memory.

  • Meaningless metrics

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    I like the cartoon, even though when you look at it closely, it looks AI-generated (why is the Lines of Code sign overlapping the corner).

    We had an hour of panic within our team when we suddenly were blocked from making Claude requests due to hitting our limit with our Enterprise plan. We almost had to go back to manual work. Thankfully, after much Slack-ing, cursing at the screen, and wiping sweaty palms on thighs wondering what the world is coming to, the limit was lifted.

    Phew!

  • Vivi and I finally got our painting space up and running yesterday. Nice to have a space where we can make a mess anytime we feel like it.

    No finished pieces to show but it’s the starting that counts. Sometimes that’s the hardest part.