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Do you have a user guide for you?
Maybe you should? “A User Guide for a Person creates clarity on how you work—what you value, how you look at problems, what your blind spots or areas of growth are, and how to build trust with you.”
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Everything is inspiration
“Once I owned being an artist, I started to focus on ways to become better. After I did that, everything I took for granted began to take on a new significance: life, a beautiful day, a day on the water, the view from the top of a building, a kind word from someone, something I…
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We all could use more Radical Acceptance
“Radical Acceptance is the art of engaging fully in this world” The final chapter of Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach brings all of the themes of the book together for one final reminder: None of us are separate. None of us are unworthy.
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Take your “self” out of it
When you are thinking about what other people are doing, did, or are about to do, take yourself out of it. For example, you might think “My friends went to the park and didn’t invite me.” Remove that last bit. “My friends went to the park.” That’s all you really know anyway, isn’t it? Likewise,…
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We are all “waking up” together
We are wounded in relationship and we need to heal in relationship. While so much of the wise teachings in the book Radical Acceptance focus on our relationship with ourselves and our solitary practices to be at peace with who we are, the theme of the eleventh chapter is that we can’t get there alone.…
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Forgiving yourself and others is super hard (and just might be the most important thing you’ll ever learn)
Let’s be honest, forgiving someone who has done something wrong (including yourself) is really hard. The biggest barrier to forgiveness (for me) is thinking of it as “losing”. It can feel like if I forgive someone, I’m saying what happened was ok, when it wasn’t. That’s the wrong way to think about it but I…
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Have you tried explaining that to an alien?
I’ve written before about how to help someone new at work, and getting feedback is one of my favorite topics related to being better at your craft. It just so happens that a very underrated way to practice giving and getting feedback is to be in charge of “onboarding” new people to your team (or…
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Ask yourself “how can I be more kind”?
We all know how it feels to be looked after. When we’re upset and someone offers genuine care for us, we shift from feeling closed off and alone to more safe and open. This is easily observed by parents when comforting their kids, or by anyone who has blown off steam with a close friend.…
Writing and drawings by Nick.
