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Have you tried explaining that to an alien?
I’ve written before about how to help someone new at work, and getting feedback is one of my favorite topics related to being better at your craft. It just so happens that a very underrated way to practice giving and getting feedback is to be in charge of “onboarding” new people to your team (or […]
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Ask yourself “how can I be more kind”?
We all know how it feels to be looked after. When we’re upset and someone offers genuine care for us, we shift from feeling closed off and alone to more safe and open. This is easily observed by parents when comforting their kids, or by anyone who has blown off steam with a close friend. […]
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Lying down on an icy couch
Everyone feels fear. From the fear of public speaking to anxiety over meeting new people and even the fear of heights, our fears are everywhere and can keep us from living a full life. Fear is uncomfortable, like “lying on an icy couch”, and our natural instinct is to move away from it. Yet, there […]
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I love this vs I need this
“Men are not free when they are doing just what they like. Men are only free when they are doing what the deepest self likes.” D. H. Lawrence I love the work I do. It is fun and endlessly interesting for me to help others with technology. However, there are times where I feel like […]
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Living life from the neck up
“If you aren’t in your body, what significance is there in your experience this moment? Are you preparing, so that you can be here in the future? Are you setting up conditions by saying to yourself, “When such and such happens I’ll have time, I’ll be here.” If you are not here, what are you […]
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Inviting Mara to tea
“When we put down ideas of what life should be like, we are free to wholeheartedly say yes to our life as it is.” No matter how hard you try to be the best version of yourself, you will always have instances where fear, self-doubt, malice, or temptation rear their head and come to knock […]
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Five questions for managing conflict by being curious
Did you read something recently that made your spin because of how unjust it was? Have a chat recently that made you clench up because of how angry you got? Most of the time these perceived conflicts are just stories in our heads, and I, for one, am a world-class storyteller (in my head of […]
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Keep your appointment with life
“Our appointment with life is in the present moment. The place of our appointment is right here, in this very place.” Thich Nhat Hanh Learning to pause and recognize what is happening in the present moment is the first step in the practice of Radical Acceptance. The trouble is that the times when we need […]
