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Ask yourself “how can I be more kind”?
We all know how it feels to be looked after. When we’re upset and someone offers genuine care for us, we shift from feeling closed off and alone to more safe and open. This is easily observed by parents when comforting their kids, or by anyone who has blown off steam with a close friend.…
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Lying down on an icy couch
Everyone feels fear. From the fear of public speaking to anxiety over meeting new people and even the fear of heights, our fears are everywhere and can keep us from living a full life. Fear is uncomfortable, like “lying on an icy couch”, and our natural instinct is to move away from it. Yet, there…
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I love this vs I need this
“Men are not free when they are doing just what they like. Men are only free when they are doing what the deepest self likes.” D. H. Lawrence I love the work I do. It is fun and endlessly interesting for me to help others with technology. However, there are times where I feel like…
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Amplify and Reduce Goals for June 2022
In April I started to experiment with some monthly habit changes designed around Cal Newport’s strategy for Cultivating a Deep Life. April felt good, May was better yet, so I’m going to keep it going for the third month. Time to reflect and set up some new habits for June.
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Living life from the neck up
“If you aren’t in your body, what significance is there in your experience this moment? Are you preparing, so that you can be here in the future? Are you setting up conditions by saying to yourself, “When such and such happens I’ll have time, I’ll be here.” If you are not here, what are you…
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Inviting Mara to tea
“When we put down ideas of what life should be like, we are free to wholeheartedly say yes to our life as it is.” No matter how hard you try to be the best version of yourself, you will always have instances where fear, self-doubt, malice, or temptation rear their head and come to knock…
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Things that a professional coach should do consistently
My first-in-a-long-time professional coaching session is this week and I’m feeling nervous. I feel like I need to do some “prep” so that I show up well. I don’t know why exactly, I guess some of my favorite fears are cropping up. What are we going to talk about? Am I really just not good…
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Keep your appointment with life
“Our appointment with life is in the present moment. The place of our appointment is right here, in this very place.” Thich Nhat Hanh Learning to pause and recognize what is happening in the present moment is the first step in the practice of Radical Acceptance. The trouble is that the times when we need…
Writing and drawings by Nick.
