The later in life bloom: I feel like I’m just getting started now, and am about to reach 40. This week I came across The Art of Blooming Late and it definitely struck a chord. First, the set-up:
Rich Karlgaard, the publisher of Forbes magazine and author of Late Bloomers, argues that our cultureâs obsession with early achievement dissuades us from pursuing our passions. Instead of having varied interests, studying widely, and taking our timeâessentials for self-discoveryâweâre encouraged to ace tests, become specialists right away, and pursue safe, stable, and lucrative careers. As a result, most of us end up choosing professional excellence over personal fulfillment, and often we lose ourselves in the process.
Then, my favorite part:
The authors of Dark Horse, Todd Rose and Ogi Ogas of Harvardâs School of Education, noticed the negative effects of early specialization in a study of people who came out of nowhere to achieve great success. âDespite feeling bored or frustrated, underutilized or overwhelmed,â the two write, âmost dark horses reluctantly plodded along for years before finally coming to the realization that they were not living a fulfilling life.â Then, after a period of restless, quiet ambition, these seemingly average peopleâadministrative assistants, engineers, IT managersâwere able to transform their âcravings, predilections, and fascinationsâ into successful careers as master sommeliers, lifestyle entrepreneurs, and celebrated craftsmen.
I was also reminded this week that the legendary management author Peter Drucker wrote 35 books in his life, two-thirds of them after the age of 65
An interesting perspective on meditation as its popularity grows: The Problem with Mindfulness gives some perspective that mindfulness is a big term and certain aspects of practices put under this umbrella aren’t for everyone.
In a 2014 study, for example, Tim Lomas, a lecturer in positive psychology at the University of East London, and colleagues, found that a quarter of the 30 male meditators they interviewed had troubling episodesâsome encountered hard-to-manage thoughts and feelings; some exacerbated their depression and anxiety; and some became psychotic. One guy, a beginner, tried out an advanced method of deconstructing the self. âI crashed, lying on the floor sobbing,â he said. âI had a really strong sense of impermanence without the context, without the positivity. The crushing experience of despair was very strongâŚYou just feel like you donât exist, youâre nothing. Itâs nihilistic, pretty terrifying.â Some negative experiences were less intense. âDoing mindfulness, you donât like yourself sometimes,â another man said. âYou just become aware, âActually, Iâm a bit of a shit.ââ Lomas and his colleagues concluded, âOur paper raises important issues around safeguarding those who practice meditation, both within therapeutic settings and in the community.â
I love music AND podcasts, but: Are podcasts killing music or just wasting our time? While many of my commutes these days are done with a podcast playing, I still often opt for music and sometimes even 10 mins of silence.
Quote that resonated with me last week: âMusic is the space between the notesâ – Claude Debussy
New music I’m listening to: Chemical Brothers – No Geography. Great album for doing work or a weekend afternoon with the kids.