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Lying down on an icy couch
Everyone feels fear. From the fear of public speaking to anxiety over meeting new people and even the fear of heights, our fears are everywhere and can keep us from living a full life. Fear is uncomfortable, like “lying on an icy couch”, and our natural instinct is to move away from it. Yet, there…
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I love this vs I need this
“Men are not free when they are doing just what they like. Men are only free when they are doing what the deepest self likes.” D. H. Lawrence I love the work I do. It is fun and endlessly interesting for me to help others with technology. However, there are times where I feel like…
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Living life from the neck up
“If you aren’t in your body, what significance is there in your experience this moment? Are you preparing, so that you can be here in the future? Are you setting up conditions by saying to yourself, “When such and such happens I’ll have time, I’ll be here.” If you are not here, what are you…
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Inviting Mara to tea
“When we put down ideas of what life should be like, we are free to wholeheartedly say yes to our life as it is.” No matter how hard you try to be the best version of yourself, you will always have instances where fear, self-doubt, malice, or temptation rear their head and come to knock…
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Five questions for managing conflict by being curious
Did you read something recently that made your spin because of how unjust it was? Have a chat recently that made you clench up because of how angry you got? Most of the time these perceived conflicts are just stories in our heads, and I, for one, am a world-class storyteller (in my head of…
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Keep your appointment with life
“Our appointment with life is in the present moment. The place of our appointment is right here, in this very place.” Thich Nhat Hanh Learning to pause and recognize what is happening in the present moment is the first step in the practice of Radical Acceptance. The trouble is that the times when we need…
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Being ok with not being perfect
As I’ve mentioned before, I struggle with beating myself up. I’m my own worst enemy. I’ve been trying to figure out how to accept myself as-is and yet not be seen as passive or ambivalent to my flaws. I’ve always felt like this should be possible and yet I can’t quite get there. After reading…
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How to escalate or de-escalate a conflict
All of us are in or have been in a conflict recently. I hope this isn’t your situation but my wife and I seem to be in the midst of a series of on again/off again conflicts related to our house renovation. There is no shortage of opportunities in life to get worked up, but…
Writing and drawings by Nick.
