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“You are not what you do. What you are is how you do it.”

Hiya, 👋🏼 Nick here!

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I’m a dad, husband, and son who sometimes draws and writes about stuff that is interesting to me. I love creating and building things with my kids, and, if I’m forced to, other adults as well. I mostly write a about life and work, and share a weekly series of learnings.

In my spare time, I work with Automattic as a Happiness Engineer. 😎

What else?

✏️ Most of what is shared here is from me, but my wife and kids are omnipresent and heavy contributors.

🇺🇸 ↔ 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 I’m currently living in Scotland by way of Seattle.

🌥 Here is what we’re up to now.

🖋️ Recent Posts

  • gowi yinyang logo v1 wide with bg

    Side-step a weakness by assuming a new role

    As a bit of an add-on to my recap of learnings from professional coaching, I came across the following story from an interview with John Vervaeke on the Tim Ferris show, where John describes how he’s cultivated a role for himself that side-steps his natural constitution. This struck a chord.

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  • burn out web feature

    A different type of burn out

    I’ve been feeling the build-up of a lot of little things recently. After an optimistic and fresh start to the year, I’m now beset by running injuries. I’m feeling constantly tired, and my brain is a bit scattered. I’m burned out, I think. Definitely rundown. It’s not like the feeling I have when I’m working…

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  • Agassi


    I remember seeing Andre Agassi on TV as a kid. I used to watch Wimbledon regularly during the summers. Since Wimbledon takes place in the UK, it was on in the mornings in the US, and during our long summer vacations, I always seemed to have time to watch. I’ve never followed tennis closely, but…

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  • Sick day

    Sick days

    My son Sam has been sick for the past couple of days. Parents of young children know that, unless they have a miraculous childcare arrangement, sick days for kids mean that the parents are basically sick too (often literally).

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  • hand with cube with background

    A matter of perspective

    While I was writing my summary about coaching, I had a thought about this drawing of a hand holding a cube. If you imagine yourself as the cube (your behaviors, motivations, values, etc.), then what a coach helps you do is turn that cube around in your hand and look at it from different directions.…

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