The fear of the unknown and our crazy human brains can be stifling!
As I think about the kids, and the ‘imagined’ negative impact on them, I get a little frozen. Frozen in those negative and sad thoughts, frozen in the fear that we are going to completely F them up and that they’ll be lonely, bullied, sad, angry and won’t fit in.
Breathe. Get over those thoughts Mama!
Here’s the deal. They are going to feel those emotions regardless of this move or not. Its part of life to experience negative emotions. Right now the kids are the HAPPIEST when they are with us, and the four of us keep each other feeling stable, loved, happy and we fit in. So perhaps we just need to focus on the family unit, the love, the fun, the adventure together – so that they have that core stability and love? So moving TOGETHER and staying solid together is more impactful for kids? And that every other experience will provide them with other skills to navigate life positively in the future?
Cue negative thought. Except if one of us dies. Or worse, both of us die.
Oh then my thoughts on the kids happiness would be totally screwed.
That is the question.
Oh man, the weight of decisions as a parent can’t be underestimated. I’ve always been fairly thoughtful and composed in any big decisions, but ADDING kids to the mix adds a hefty kettle bell to my arms.
Life in America right now (apart from the utter political craziness we are part of) is pretty awesome day to day! #blessed #lucky #surreal We are probably middle class textbook – totally weird when you look in from the outside. Married, Kids (one of each), 4 bedroom home, 2 cars….. healthy, happy. So why change that?
A ton of reasons, all with different weight. And whilst there is no obvious reason to uproot, all of our personal reasons leave us with an instinctual feeling that this is the way forward for our family. And we are SO LUCKY that we are ABLE to make such a decision, and plan such a move.
So here goes our big family move from America to Scotland, where we will open new doors, new experiences, new adventures….. and lots of laughing as Nick uses his American words, and the Scottish take the piss! 🙂 Don’t worry babe, I’ve got your back (sometimes)!
*A few things the Scottish will find funny – Semi, Glasgow…..* more later in its own dedicated article!
I’m Kav. I’m 41 years old, Wife of my soulmate Nick, and Mama to our 2 beautiful kids. I was born in Trinidad, raised mostly in Scotland, and live in the greater Seattle area of the USA.
My husband loves to write. I love to think, and then occasionally blurt out a whole load of stuff in one big mass. We are about to uproot the family and move to the UK from America so finding a constructive way to put it all down, organize our thoughts well and capture all of our excitement, fears and hesitations ALONG the way MAKES SENSE.
I join my husband on this writing journey 🙂
Maybe one day, our kids will read this. And instead of being mad of us for making such big changes in their lives, they might appreciate the thought and emotion that went into our decisions.
We love you Vivian and Sam. x